
The Wedding Guest Dressing Guide
Mehendi to reception: what to wear, what to avoid, and how to look considered in photographs you will keep.
Six ways to wear an heirloom weave without it wearing you — from the drape to the blouse to what you leave off.

A Banarasi is a loud garment in the best sense. The zari catches light from across a room, the pallu carries most of the pattern, and the weight of the silk decides how it falls whether you like it or not. Most styling advice for them is really advice about restraint.
The densest brocade is almost always in the pallu, and it is the part people see. Pleat the skirt cleanly, keep the pleats narrow, and let the pallu fall in a single fold over the shoulder rather than fanned. A fanned pallu spreads the pattern flat and makes it read as wallpaper.
Matching the blouse to the main field of the saree is the safe choice and usually the dull one. Taking the colour from a secondary thread in the border gives the eye somewhere to travel and makes the weave look more considered than it did on the hanger.
A plain blouse in raw silk or matte cotton is nearly always better than a second brocade. Two brocades compete, and the saree loses.
Heavy zari is already jewellery. A Banarasi with jhumkas and a choker and stacked bangles has four things asking for attention. Choose the one nearest your face — earrings, usually — and let everything else be quiet.
Heavier silks hold a pleat but resist a soft drape; lighter ones do the opposite. If the silk is substantial, use fewer and deeper pleats and pin the pallu at the shoulder — the weight will pull it out of place within an hour otherwise. A petticoat in a matching shade, tied firmly at the waist, does more for the silhouette than any amount of adjusting later.
The quickest way to make an heirloom feel like a costume is to keep it for weddings. A Banarasi with a plain cotton blouse, minimal jewellery and flat sandals is an entirely different garment, and the weave is good enough to carry it.

Mehendi to reception: what to wear, what to avoid, and how to look considered in photographs you will keep.

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